On a Saturday night, after another riveting week of walking around my living room and failed attempts at making cold brew, I turned off The Sopranos, put on a fresh pair of sweatpants, and got ready for a date. Actually, I got ready for 23 dates — all at the same time. That's right, folks: At the height of a global pandemic, I went Zoom speed dating and attended a virtual singles mixer. Although the phrase " Zoom singles mixer " may sound like it was written by the creators of Cards Against Humanity, many dating companies and matchmaking services have opted to move online since social distancing began. Take video-dating app Filter Off , for example, which has seen a major surge in its speed dating sessions , Bumble's collaboration with BuzzFeed , which sets up strangers on live-streamed first dates.
What's Speed Dating Really Like? I Tried It & Learned The Most Surprising Lesson
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A good conversation is an art, that some people spend years learning and practicing. In a speed dating you only have about four minutes to create a fun and enjoyable conversation and to make a good impression. That is exactly what the focus of a speed dating session should be. Of course you want to find out if you could be with the person for a long run, but it is best to keep the 'big question' about the ex's or children for the subsequent dates. All you are really trying to figure out on the speed date is whether the two of you have something in common and if you would be able to carry out a conversation that lasts longer than four minutes. Common rule is also to avoid talks about controversial topics like politics or religion. There is just not enough time on speed dating to have a debate about such topics and you do't want to spoil something right from the start.
How to Host a Speed Dating Event
What is your idea of fun? What are you doing this weekend? Would you like to spend a day with me? You spend three to five minutes chatting with every person attending the event. During that short period of time, you must ask several questions to ascertain whether they would make a good match for your next date.
Having a smart arsenal of great speed dating questions is essential to mastering the art of speed dating. And yes, speed dating is an art form. You ever get tired of the time and energy it takes to find a good date?