I am 10 years younger than him and single, never engaged or married with no children. He has been married and divorced twice now with two children, one from each marriage. His last wife he got pregnant after only a few months of dating her sneaky idea and so his parents being religious as well as him and wanting to do what was right told him to marry her. A few months later they were married and it all went downhill from there, she had already three children, one from a relationship, two from her last marriage and then now pregnant with her fourth child. He stayed in the relationship and tried to make it work for nine years for the kids.
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How to Get Rid of Emotional Baggage: A Guide for Men
Emotional baggage is an everyday expression that correlates with many varied but similar concepts within social sciences, self-help movements, and other fields: its general concern is with unresolved issues of an emotional nature, often with an implication that the emotional baggage is detrimental. As a metaphorical image, it is that of carrying all the disappointments, wrongs, and trauma of the past around with one in a heavy load. Behind adult problems, however, there may be deeper forms of emotional baggage rooted in the experiences of childhood, but continuing to trouble personality and behaviour within the adult. Men and women may be unable to leave the pain of childhood behind, and look to their partners to fix this, rather than to address more adult concerns. Cultural and parental expectations, and patterns of behaviour drawn from the family of origin and still unconsciously carried around, will impact on a new marriage in ways neither partner may be aware of. Similarly, as parents, both sexes may find their own childhood pasts hampering their efforts at more constructive child-rearing,  whether they repeat, or seek to overcompensate for, parental patterns of the past. Psychotherapy addresses such emotional baggage of the client under the rubric of transference ,  exploring how early development can create an internalised 'working mode' through which all subsequent relationships are viewed;  while the concept of countertransference on the therapist's part acknowledges that they too can bring their own emotional baggage into the analytic relationship.
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Emotional baggage is an extremely insidious thing. Many of us do not attach importance to it. Even more of us do not know about its existence. Also there are fools who believe that emotional baggage cannot in any way affect our present, let alone the future. Such beliefs are extremely damaging.
And no, we're not insinuating that he broke up with you because of the way your hair frizzes up in the summer, or because you're always leaving Cheez-it crumbs in bed, or even because you sexted his mom by accident. What's really weighing you down, and effing up your love life, is all that emotional baggage. Trust us. We've been there.