Last Updated: May 28, References. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in There are 15 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed 87, times. Upon losing a spouse, widows often find it hard to proceed with life even on the most basic level. The idea of dating and falling in love again seems like an impossible mountain to climb.
Abby: Dating after spouse's death OK
Mourning Period for Deceased Partners - Widows Who Find Love Again
Seeking a relationship to specifically help you work through your heartache is unlikely to be a solution for your grief. Far from helping you, it will not be good for the other person you have involved in your post-bereavement blues. In general terms, a space of at least one year should elapse before considering marriage, or indeed, a romantic attachment following bereavement. Yet someone could be quietly recovering from their loss and find themselves swept off their feet within six months. This might not happen that often, but it has happened!
Dear Abby: How long should one wait, after a spouse dies, to begin dating?
And, when it comes to knowing when you're ready, no one else can decide for you. Only you can know when that time is. Losing a loved one is traumatic — there are no two ways about it. Give yourself time to grieve, reflect and reevaluate who you are at this time in your life. The feelings of loss may always be with you, but continuing to have feelings of hurt, anger and grief that are debilitating indicates that you've got a lot to work through.
Last Updated: October 8, References Approved. Rebecca Tenzer is the owner and head clinician at Astute Counseling Services, a private counseling practice in Chicago, Illinois. With over 18 years of clinical and educational experience in the field of mental health, Rebecca specializes in the treatment of depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, grief, interpersonal relationships using a combination of Cognitive Behavioral therapy, Psychodynamic therapy, evidence-based practices. Rebecca has served as a member of the AmeriCorps and is also a Professor of Psychology at the collegiate level.